Sunday, August 19, 2012

new beginnings: a letter for family & friends

Dear friends and family,

Our family of three will soon be reunited and life as we know it will quickly come to an end (and we couldn't be more ecstatic).  As we prepare to bring Moses home we want to express our gratitude for your love, support and prayers during the last two years.   It's hard to think about the last two years without tears--for the beauty that rose from ashes with the loss of one referral and acceptance of another--for my mom's heavenly homecoming--for our SON--for the support of family, friends and strangers, and for the new friendships that emerged along the way.

I am one blessed mama.

(who cannot wait to have her son in her arms, again).

With this new season of life approaching, life in our household is about to look drastically different.  Moses calls us "Mommy" and "Daddy"....yet, he doesn't know what these words mean. He needs to learn that we will be the ones to fulfill his physical needs.  He needs to know that he can depend on us...and together we need to learn how to become a family. 

In order to do that, we have specific things that we will do, to help Moses adjust and begin the bonding process.

We will be the only ones to meet M's physical needs (which includes feeding, comforting, holding, hugging, kissing, etc).  We ask that you respect this by giving high fives instead of hugs or kisses as he begins to learn boundaries (and as we teach him it's not ok to plant a kiss on just anyone!)

We will be "cocooning" for awhile.  We'll be laying low...with the three of us. We will be spending our days at home. We will try to decrease the amount of stimulation in our life as the seeds for attachment are planted.  With time we will venture out more and continually assess how our sweet boy is adjusting.

Please don't read this this post thinking we are pushing everyone away. We are not trying to create a barrier between our community. Rather, we are trying to create the bond of our family. We want him to meet all of you, but we also want him to learn that there is something drastically different with the two of us compared to everyone else he meets. Please respect our efforts in the coming weeks as we make this transition.

We are so grateful for y'all.
Thank you for richly blessing our lives and praying us through.
Time to pack!

with love,
Emily & James




2 comments:

  1. I've read about cocooning, I hope it's such a blessed time for you guys. Learning about each other and just making wonderful memories. The REAL question is...WHEN DO YOU GET TO GO GET HIM?!?!?!?!?
    ~Bethany

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  2. Thank you so much for this update!.. Now I can update my prayers for you all! I cannot wait to read more, and I am soo excited for you all to have Moses in your arms again! I'll definitely be praying for the type of bonding that only our Savior can produce in a family!
    ~K

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